No matter what you say or do, you will always become the person you hate the most.There is at least one person we hate/loathe with passion. We've known this person since we were young, or they left such a large mark in your mind you'll never forget them. Whether it's family, friends, or a loose acquaintance, they've done things that would embarrass you, or cruel depending on your age and outlook.
They would be so mean, hurting you and everyone around them in any physical or mental way possible. As you get older you keep telling yourself that you will never become that person. You will make something of yourself, a kind human being who will be kind to family and peers, have different values and counteract cultural mores.
Sometimes you don't realize how hellbent you're set on becoming the opposite of that loathsome person. Other times you've got so much on your plate you do not realize you're slowly picking up habits which that which you vowed you'd never do. Very slowly you mimic the actions of the loathsome one. You take on their views, most of the time their temper, attitudes, and in extreme cases, likes and dislikes. It's almost a mirror image of what you endures years ago.
To say you're becoming a carbon copy is absurd. You have your own uniqueness, however when it comes down to it you've become that which you've hate. There is no escaping it you disgusting pig, you're far too late.
Is this avoidable? It depends. This sort of thing is an issue with the self, mind, and soul. I believe some genuine soul searching apart from any institution is needed. Take what you believe, or what brings you peace and concentrate on that. Find what you can use to meditate. It doesn't taker long, and finding yourself can help avoid the cycle so many of us become a part of.
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